Most of us have had to shift into a work from home lifestyle as our new normal over these past several weeks which may be a big adjustment for some especially if you’re a routine person like myself. However, it’s still important to dress for your day!
Many studies have proven the impact of what we wear and how it affects our mood and our performance.
I actually did a work from home wardrobe experiment on myself to prove if this theory had some truth to it.
During the first week of quarantine, I decided to dress down in my comfy sweatpants everyday and I felt my overall mood was affected as well as my productive levels.
So the following week, I made it a point to dress for my day, style my hair and put on my makeup no matter if I had a virtual meeting or not. That’s when I noticed a huge difference in not only how I tackled my day but how I performed throughout the day. I also felt a huge shift in my overall mood as well.
The term “Enclothed Cognition” is used to describe how clothing enhances our psychological states, and it can even improve our performance on tasks meaning that what we wear is directly correlated to how we think and feel.
Have you noticed a difference between dressing up and dressing down for your work from home routine? Has it affected your mood or your productivity levels?
Another thing to think about is, what if you were to invite your boss or your colleagues over to your home?
My guess is you would make a point to dress up and even straighten up your place to make them feel welcome and show respect to your guests. It’s no different when we get on virtual calls, we are essentially inviting people into our home!
We still should plan to show up ready to tackle our day, virtual calls or not. So, I put together a few work from home outfit ideas to help you go from pajamas to productive while working from home depending on your office style. Check them out…
Look 1: THE BUSINESS PROFESSIONAL Stand out on your virtual call with a patterned sport coat instead of your typical solid navy jacket. Sharp Tip: accessorize your personality with a tie or pocket square. For a less formal look, you can opt for no tie depending on the type of clients you’re meeting with.
Look 2: THE BUSINESS CASUAL Go for a button down shirt in a color that pops a bit on camera. Sharp Tip: make sure to be well groomed on your virtual calls, you’re still making an impression!
Look 3: THE CASUAL OFFICE For my Casual office folks, layer a cardigan with a cotton chambray shirt which keeps your look professional without sacrificing comfort. Sharp Tip: Don’t forgot to press your shirt!
Look 4: “BUSINESS ON TOP” For those unexpected calls, focus on what you have on from the waist up! Sharp Tip: throw on a sweater over your shirt for an quick change, “iron-free” look.
Look 5: “NO VIRTUAL MEETINGS” No virtual calls that day? You still want to dress out of your pjs. Just throw on a pair of cotton 5 pocket pants, a zip up cardigan and cozy slippers are a must. Sharp Tip: invest in a laptop tray to keep yourself productive and organized for the day!
Showing up as the professional you are in virtual meetings is not just important today. Video meetings are here to stay!
Are you single and feeling like your dating life has come to a halt? You might be thinking “is dating still possible right now” in a time of quarantine and social distancing?
I mean why even bother if you can’t actually meet them in person, right?!
Or maybe, like some of my clients, before all this happened you just started dating someone you really liked but now that you’re both quarantined, you’re not even sure how to continue to keep the chemistry going and you’re afraid it will just fizzle out. Well, if any of that sounds like you, I understand exactly how you feel.
I’ve been hearing a common frustration amongst my clients which is how do they navigate dating while living in this new norm of social distancing and being isolated in quarantine. They’re feeling like their dating life has been interrupted and they’re not sure what to do about it.
Here’s the thing, now is actually a great time to date online! Think about it. What if social distancing and self quarantining were actually a good thing for your dating life? Yes I said it! Okay, now hear me out.
Regardless if it’s friendship, business or a romantic relationship, one common denominator all successful relationships are built upon is real connection. When you’re looking for your ideal partner which is what my clients are looking for, it’s about the emotional connection. In the modern world of dating especially with dating apps like Tinder, it’s more about the hook-up culture and it often becomes physical fast but getting caught up on the physical is really not an option right now.
However, humans still need connection and people are craving it now more than ever so how can you seize the moment and create emotional connections with ideal matches right now?
1.Focus on building genuine connections.
Social distancing does not mean social disconnecting!
Now that we’re all stuck at home, people have a lot more time on their hands since their schedules have opened up. No more, “I’m too busy” excuses. People are more open to organic connections at this time.
Have you watched LOVE IS BLIND on Netflix? The premise of the show is singles try to find a match and fall in love — without ever seeing each other face-to-face, it’s all about emotional connection over physical attraction. And the couples that came out of the show successfully with a ring of their finger did just that!
Being forced to take it slow means less swiping, texting and quick meet-and-greets. Since there is no rush to meet up in person, you are forced to get to know each other first. Use this opportunity to build up the excitement for when you finally can go on a date and spend the time to get to know her “virtually” in the meantime.
2.Polish up your Profile.
My clients are always complaining that online dating takes too much time, but now you have the “time”, use it to dial in on who you are, what makes you a great catch AND who you want to attract and connect with online.
Sharp tip: here are some questions to ask yourself while updating your profile:
Are you being specific in WHO you want to attract including your common interests and values? Do your pictures represent your personality and highlight your best self? Do they paint the picture of who you are and make someone want to take the time to get to know you better?
Your profile should reflect that!
3.Brush up your conversational skills.
Most of my clients consider themselves introverts and on the shy side and what most shy men struggle with is their conversations in messages on dating apps and over text because they struggle with that playfulness and banter. Texting often leads to miscommunication because it’s more difficult to express yourself over a text and what often happens is women lose interest and ghost. This is so frustrating! So, it’s time to pick up the phone and get to know her better.
What better way to showcase your personality and build rapport with her than a phone call or FaceTime? Be authentic by being yourself.
This is a skill in which you can learn. And now is the time to practice this! There is no rush to get to the date so take the time now to practice these skills. Like any skill, this is how you improve. Practice, practice, practice.
4. Start connecting with other singles online right now.
My clients have been getting more matches now than ever before. Why? Because people are craving connection. More people are online right now. So, try looking for virtual happy hours with other singles or even video speed dating events.
Some online events to try are humhum.space, meetup.com, Eventbrite, or other singles events like Buffs & Brainiacs, NYC social or Savvy singles. All of these are great ways to be social without leaving the comfort of your home.
And of course, there’s always dating apps. A new one that seems timely for the current circumstances is Filter Off. Every night, you get 3 hand picked dates, you have 90 seconds in a live video speed date then after the date you can decide whether to match or pass!
5.Continue to date (virtually).
Have you met someone online you’re interested in getting to know better? Ask her out on a virtual date!
Yes, virtual dating a thing and this where you’re going to have to think outside the box. The more creative you are, the more brownie points! Think about how you’ll stand out by being creative right now. To help you do just that, I’ve put together some some virtual date ideas for you. Here goes…
1.Go for a walk
Grab your earpods, hop on FaceTime and give her a virtual tour of your neighborhood. Show her your favorite spots and pick out some places that you can check out together when this is all over. What a great get-to-know-you first date!
2. Grab a drink over video chat
Suggesting a free video chat date could be a fun way to break the ice that acknowledges the weirdness of living through a global pandemic. Mix up your favorite cocktail or pour a glass of wine, put on some fun music and get to know each other! Ask about each’s day, just like you’re meeting up for a drink after work, sipping on a cocktail over video chat can be a simple, no pressure way to get to know each other better.
Sharp Tip: Don’t forget to dress up for the virtual date!
Just because you’re not leaving your apt or your house, doesn’t mean you should skimp out on the effort here. She can still see you! So that means be well groomed, dress up, where a button down and a jacket, throw on a pop of color, have some fun with your style and show her your personality!
3. Cook a recipe together
Research an easy, delicious recipe you can cook together (Sharp tip: Grab one off Pinterest), send her a list of ingredients to pick up ahead of time, hop on a video chat and cook it together. What a fun way to learn more about each’s tastes and how each of you handle a fun challenge!
4.Video Dinner Date
Don’t like to cook? Send her a contactless dinner delivery along with your favorite bottle of wine. Set up the video chat on your laptop, set the mood with some candles and voila! Sharp Tip: make sure to print out some questions in advance to spark the conversation over dinner.
Again, don’t forget to dress up for your virtual date! Here are some stylish outfit ideas I put together. If you’re need of more ideas, make sure to go check out my Youtube channel, hit that “subscribe” button and comment to let me know what you want to see more of!
5.Watch a movie together
Movie nights can still be a thing, even if you’re not in the same room. You can Netflix and chill (virtually) using Netflix Party. This is a great way to bond with your date over a movie or get into a series together, or watch stand up comedy special. Get more creative, try playing a game together over Zoom like “Heads Up” or download an app like House Party and have some fun playing games online with others.
6.Take an online class together
Why not take this opportunity to learn something new with someone else? Choose something you both want to learn about. Take a language class, art class or something more hands on and crafty. Not only will you have something more to chat about but at the end of all this, you’ll both have learned a new skill!
These are just a few of my ideas to get you started and who knows, you might have so much fun with these that you will continue a few of them even when you’re out of quarantine!
But remember, now is not the time to…
1.Put your dating life on hold.
2.Assume things will just go back to “normal”.
3.Waste your time trying to figure this out on your own!
With that being said, would you like my help to implement some of these strategies to help you get better results in your dating life and connect with your ideal match?
Today, I’d really like to go ahead and squash the myth that dressing better = wearing a suit and tie.
Contrary to what you might think, I don’t dress my clients in suits and ties all day nor do I advocate that they “shop til they drop”.
It’s quite the opposite actually…
I teach my clients how to to take their style to the next level by helping them dress more like their authentic selves. Think YOU the 2.0 version.
For me, it’s about teaching you how to dress more confidently (suit or no suit).
And to prove that you don’t need to where a suit and tie to look sharp (no pun intended), I’ve put together my M-F work week looks to give you some ideas on how to take your style up a notch. Check them out!
MONDAY: CLIENT MEETING For a less formal look, swap out your matching suit pant for a clean, dark wash denim or 5 pocket pant. Tie optional depending on the type of clients you’re meeting with.
TUESDAY: NETWORKING EVENT For a Business Casual look, wear a textured sport coat or blazer with a pair of flat front chinos (no pleats, please!). Layer a zip up sweater cardigan under the jacket for a more elevated look.
WEDNESDAY: THE CASUAL OFFICE For my Casual office folks, here’s how to look both casual yet professional & put together at the same time. Style and Fit are key. Try mixing both colors and layers by wearing a cardigan over a printed shirt with a fitted pair of colored chinos. Done.
THURSDAY: GUYS NIGHT OUT Try a more fashionable look like this turtleneck with a suede bomber jacket and patterned trousers. Accessorize your personality and you’re sure to impress with this look!
FRIDAY: CASUAL FRIDAYS Swap out your go-to blue oxford shirt for a fun printed shirt and layer over a zip up jacket that pairs well with gray jeans and fashion sneakers.
SATURDAY (BONUS): DAY 2 NIGHT DATE LOOK Step up your style game with a pattern top coat and a burgundy sweater (this color looks great on everyone) and throw on a pair of camel color Chelsea boots. That extra effort goes a long way, guys!
Comment below on your favorite look!
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The Summer season will soon be coming to a close but there’s still plenty of time to find a great pair of shorts to add to your seasonal wardrobe. However, there are a few common mistakes I see men making when it comes to looking stylish in shorts so I put together a few of my style rules to consider when choosing the right pair for you.
Just last month while sorting through a client’s wardrobe, he admitted: “I don’t actually own a pair of shorts. I have no idea what looks good on me.”
Not only did I help my client find the perfect pair of shorts but he ended up loving the way he looked in them so much, he bought 3 more pairs on his own. He learned simple style rules and how to upgrade his casual wardrobe in order to project a sense of style that is simple, elegant, and classy…yes, shorts count too!
I believe the secret to having great style is to feel great in your clothes and the key is to find the fits and styles that work best for you, everyone is different. So, you can either take the time to figure it out on your own through lots of trial and error or you can learn from an expert. That’s where I come in!
Rule #1: Fit
When searching for the right pair of shorts or any type of clothing for that matter, I believe fit to be the most important factor. You must take into consideration your height, weight and body type when searching for your ideal pair.
Since all brands fit differently, it’s important to know your measurements not just your waist size. I make sure to take measurements of all of my clients so I can select the best brands for their body type. Otherwise, you might end up wearing shorts that are too wide or too baggy like these.
Rule #2: Length
A common question I often get from men is “How do I know what length to buy?” The length is referring to the inseam and there are many options out there depending on the brand.
The correct length of your inseam depends on your height. For example, a shorter guy who is 5’8″ or under should avoid longer inseams as this will make him look even shorter. Ideally, you want the short hem to fall a couple inches above the knee.
Rule #3: Style
As far as style goes, you can’t go wrong with a slim fit chino short. Avoid baggy cargo short styles as they tend to look sloppy and outdated. Even if you are the greatest basketball player of all time.
Select basic colors that match back to anything. Stick to tan, grey, olive, navy or black then move into bolder colors and patterns.
Rule #4: Footwear
The best footwear options to wear with shorts are slip-on shoes or fashion sneakers. Things to avoid: Chunky shoes, running sneakers, and flip flops.
Reserve the flip flops for the beach or pool. Otherwise, you’ll be kicking up dirt from the streets. Do your feet a favor and keep ’em covered.
Now that you’re all set for Summer, don’t forget that Fall is right around the corner. Are you Fall ready?
Let us help you reboot your Fall style. Sign up for aFree Style Assessment call to find out more about our unique Sort-Shop-Style method to help you elevate your style and image this season.
Hopefully you’re doing something fun this 4th of July weekend whether that’s going to the beach or a friend’s rooftop bbq (such a New Yorker thing to do, right?).
Whatever you’re up to for the long weekend, I’ve put together a few sharp tips for how to wear more prints and look effortlessly cool doing so.
If you haven’t noticed, prints are back with a vengeance this season but you might be feeling like anything other than the Hawaiian shirt, a.k.a. Magnum P.I. style, might just be a tad outside of your comfort zone.
I get it, most men feel they need to ease into a print but the key is to keep it simple and match back to the more basic items in your wardrobe.
So here are a few, stylish ways to incorporate prints into your Summer wardrobe this season and style the print to be the stand out piece. Check it out…
Are you ready to reboot your style this Summer season? Let us show you how with our unique Sort-Shop-Style method.
You have the work uniform down. It’s fairly easy for you to pick out what to wear to work everyday.
That’s not an issue for you.
On the weekends, however, it’s another story. Your clothes FEEL comfortable, but do they EXUDE confidence and attraction?
Do you often look sloppy because you’re in the mindset of not really caring since it’s just hanging out with family? You just want to relax, willing to sacrifice the attraction aspects. If this sounds all too similar to you, chances are, you are the Drab Dad.
Here’s why you should care…
Because… she does. But don’t fret- it’s curable.
I get more and more women reaching out to me asking to help their partners dress better. Not because they are trying to fix or change them, but because it’s crucial to them that you care about how you look. Yes, don’t be afraid to care! Over-care! Appearance is for yourself AND for your partner.
France (a stylist from the hit Netflix series, Queer Eye) says he fell into the same lazy routine as many of the men he’s helped transform into unlikely Prince Charmings — a routine that involved sweatpants, nights in, and a general disregard for his partner’s perception of him. It’s an easy trap to fall into.
Yet, he speaks candidly about the double standard pressuring straight women to look good for their husbands, while their spouses have free reign to dress however they want.
“A lot of times, we forget it is our partners who we need to make the biggest effort for,” France says. “If you can’t take care of yourself, how the heck are you going to take care of everyone around you?”
The secret is putting in the effort to look good for your partner. She wants to claim, that’s my man. Once you fulfill her dreams of sprucing up, the two of you appear better as a couple.
As an added bonus, looking and feeling your best comes with the perks of increasing your mood.
She desires to be next to a man. When you put in the extra effort to look good, your every compliment, every turning of heads from those sharp eyes in the street- guess what? It’s a compliment for her, too, because you’re a confident, attractive man, not just to her, but now to everyone. You will have her thinking and saying out loud, “Damn right, he is mine!”
Appearing nice on the outside is also a reflection of how you feel on the inside. You want to relax, be comfortable on the weekends (especially with the double shift of being a father). Fortunately, you don’t have to compromise comfort for style. Indeed, you can obtain both.
A General Hiatus to the Easy Fixes:
As a culture, we tell men you should dole all the compliments. And as much as you deal out compliments to your partners, the love should come full circle!
When is the last time you looked in the mirror and said, “damn, I look good!” ? Your last desire to exude self confidence to go out in the world and do what you need to do is your goal as a man, father, and/or husband? The task is yours for the taking!
As a man, our culture teaches you that it’s your job to focus on everyone else. Luckily, clothes can aid our self esteem, confidence and the way you carry and present yourself to the world.
Clothes that especially fit well and compliment the physique are what you need to focus on. Aim for simple, sophisticated and refined. Step it up slightly without distracting or taking away from who you are completely.
It makes no sense to give you a complete makeover, rather, it’s about giving tips on how to update and enhance your everyday style. These tips aren’t giant leaps to change your job, location, or personality. Simply, bringing forth what you already have within you to dazzle not only strangers, but the most important people in your life.
Get out of your own way! It’s okay for you to think of yourself as attractive. It’s okay to feel good about taking care of how you look. Focus on how you feel. This is not vain, merely, essential.
For men, fathers, or husbands who want to feel less schlepy, or in our terms, Drab Dad, step it up to feel sexier. In this day and age, going the extra mile to dress well is manly. Therefore, make your clothes compliment you, and express what your life is all about… you, you, you!
I don’t know about you but this year seems to be flying by and since we skipped right over the Spring season (weather wise), I’m heading straight into Summer with my “sharp” style upgrades for the season.
Summer in the city can be brutal with the heat and humidity especially in the NYC subways which feel like a sauna (seriously) but it’s still not an excuse to slack off in the style department.
And it’s my job to know what’s cool (pun intended) in fashion—these 6 pieces are must have additions to your Summer wardrobe. Are these stylish items missing from your wardrobe checklist this season? Find out!
Definitely not for the risk averse, this drawstring trouser is a great update to the traditional seersucker pant (left). Great for work or weekend, the fabric will keep you looking and feeling cool this season.
If you’re anything like me, it’s time to swap out those heavy Winter clothes hanging in the closet for your warmer weather gear.
Now is also a great time to review the items you didn’t wear last year and declutter so you can create an easy, functional wardrobe that’s a match for what you want to attract this year.
To help guide you in this process, I’m sharing the questions I go through with my clients when we are reviewing their closets for the season!
So, let’s go ahead and get started…
1. Does it serve you?
Ask yourself: does this item make you feel good when you’re wearing it? Does it highlight your best self? Do you get compliments on it? If you’re answer is “no”, then it’s time let it go.
2. Does it match with at least 3 other garments in your closet?
A streamlined wardrobe will make getting dressed everyday a breeze. Instead of assigning each item a specific role, try to imagine how that item can match with other items in your wardrobe. I call this style re-mixing. I love creating fresh, new styles from things you already have hanging in your closet!
3. Will you wear it again this season?
Okay, be honest with yourself on this one. If you’ve been holding onto an item in hopes that maybe, someday you’ll wear it again when you lose weight or when you have the right occasion, it’s just taking up space and it’s time to let go. Invest in items that highlight your best self now.
4. Is it in the best shape or style?
Does it have obvious wear and tear, ex: holes, tears, fading, stains, baggy or saggy? Then it’s time for an upgrade. The style part might not be so obvious to you but my advice, if you’ve had it for 5 years or longer (the majority of men do!) and either the fit or style of the garment is unflattering on you, then goes in the donation pile.
5. Does it have sentimental value?
Whether it’s an old varsity t-shirt or a gift from someone special, limit these items to one drawer. If a family member gifted you an item that doesn’t fit or it’s just not your style, why hold onto it? Trust me, they won’t even remember giving it to you. Donate it!
If you’re looking for more personalized help to cut the crap from your closet, book a Spring Closet “Tune up” Session with me!
This is an in-person closet audit session to review what’s working and what’s not working in your wardrobe, here’s what you’ll get:
Learn what styles & colors work best for you and your exact size (most men are wearing the wrong fit).*
I will go through your closet and advise on what to toss, keep, donate or update for a better, more flattering fit and style.
I will “shop your closet” and create 15 complete head-to-toe outfits, photograph each one and you will receive a digital Lookbook of all your newly customized looks which you can download straight to your smartphone.
You’ll receive a checklist of the top 10 items missing from your wardrobe including accessories along with brands/stores to shop.
My professional organizer will also be on hand to organize your wardrobe items and get your closet clutter free for the season.
After the appointment, I will drop off any donated items to your local donation site.
*Includes Fit Analysis: Measurements will be taken during our session to learn your exact size and fit.
Your Style Re-mix Master, Tavia
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Goldman Sachs’ recently announced their updated “suits optional” dress code policy.
The memo states, “All of us know what is and is not appropriate for the workplace.”
The rules have changed. As companies embrace more casual dress codes, the rules of dressing “professional” become less defined and employees are left to figure out what is appropriate or not.
But do employees really understand the new way of dressing?
My executive clients are asking me for guidance on what to wear in order to look more professional and put together in their now business casual work environments.
I’m here to de-code these new dress code policies and help you optimize your wardrobe so that it easily takes you from the office to client meetings to social gatherings.
But don’t get rid of your suits just yet! I’m giving you my simple style tips on how to optimize your suit while looking professional and polished in a “suits optional” world…
Whether your office dress code is “suit and tie” or not, every man should have at least 4-5 great fitting suits in his rotation: Navy, Charcoal, Light Grey, and then add in other patterns and colors like this one pictured.
Sharp style tip: Solid black suits are outdated. Navy is the “new black” and has been for awhile but I feel this needs repeating as I see it all the time when I’m reviewing clients’ closets. Not only does navy match back to everything in your wardrobe but it also looks great on any skin tone.
This suit fromChookhare & Sons is a fully custom designed suit made to fit your exact measurements and the light blue check pattern makes it extremely versatile for wearing it as a set or breaking it up into several looks, keep scrolling to see how…
The Suit Pant
If you work in a more business casual work environment, you can still wear the pant from your suit as a trouser, replace the jacket and layer on a v-neck sweater instead. Take it one step further and take off the tie.
Sharp style tip: Keep an extra tie or two in your desk drawer for when you have an important last minute client meeting and need to step it up a notch.
Don’t neglect the vest in your 3 piece suit. This is a key piece and can add more style to your typical every day office look. Instead of a jacket, wear the vest instead. Style it with a matching trouser for a more business casual look. Tie optional.
Sharp style tip: Remix a pattern vest with a solid sport coat and dark rinse blue jeans for a night out with the guys.
The Suit Jacket
Instead of the whole suit, why not turn your suit jacket into your new favorite sport coat?
Sharp style tip:Pair it with a dress shirt and chinos for a put together business casual look or pair it with jeans for an after work happy hour or date night. Trust me guys, your date will appreciate the effort!
Ready to optimize your current wardrobe and create new outfit combinations with the items you already own?
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Winter is officially upon us and living in New York City for almost 20 years, I know waking up in the frigid temps is hard enough let alone thinking about what the heck to wear.
And as a guy, it’s easier to just go for function over fashion. For the most part, you’re just thinking about keeping warm!
However, I want you to consider that choosing what to wear is one of the most important marketing decisions you make each day; not just because it’s the first thing others notice, but because it impacts how you feel about yourself—and that informs how you operate out in the world.
So, here are my style recommendations on how you can instantly upgrade your Winter staples this season. I’ve listed 6 style swaps that are functional and stylish enough to carry you through the rest of the Winter season…